I HAD A REVELATION
You know the saying, “You only get out of a relationship/friendship what you first put in”? Well, I’ve come to realize that’s a load of BULLSHIT! Yes, cow feces…It all depends on the people or person that you are working with…generally speaking; in this world you are either one of two kinds of people, a giver, or a taker…there are very seldom cases where people find the balance and have even characteristics of both.
On the giving side, you have the thoughtful person who is always thinking of others. They put others first…even in the smallest instances…just for example say, if the giver goes out of town to an event and knows there is a friend who would have liked to go but could not the giver would perhaps bring back a little souvenir for the absent friend…nothing extravagant, just something to say, “hey, I know you wanted to be there and I was just thinking about you.” Simple enough right…or even just a phone call to say HEY, I just saw this thing in a store and it made me think of you…anywho, I digress…
Now the takers in life well, they take…they may have good intentions and they may do nice things from time to time…they may even do something mayjor for you (mostly because they probably realize that they are a taker and have hurt the giver and feel guilty), but to a giver…the big things aren’t the most important things…they know that it’s the little things that really count….Takers might even SAY that they are going to do things, like things that matter ie. go out of town without you and I dont know…call you everyday or bring you back a FREE t-shirt, but that’s the thing about takers…it’s not in them to think about others and If it is in them it surely doesn’t show…because they SAY a lot of things just to make other people happy for the moment or make it look like they care to give you a false sence of security…and then what do they do!? NOTHING…they come back and TELL you what a great time they had and throw pictures in your face….
So, all of this has been said to say that basically….I NEED NEW FRIENDS….or maybe I just need to go back to not having friends at all…dont get me wrong…I love my friends….why!? Because I’m a giver….or maybe I should just stop being a giver…since that seems to be ther problem…but no, that wouldnt fix anything either because that would make me just like them…maybe I need a hobby…so that way I dont think about other people so much and start focusing on myself…
